Monthly Archives: August 2006

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, " How do I know if I married the right person ?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, " It
Depends. Is that your husband
?
"

In all seriousness, she answered " How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s
Weighing on your mind.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
Your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
Their
idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a
Completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love… Because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, " I was swept of my feet." Think about the
Imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing
There; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the
Natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
Become a bother (
if they come at all

), touch is not always welcome ( when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,  drive you nuts.


The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
Think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, " Did I marry
The right person
?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
The love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for  their
Unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfilment.

Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
The most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You
Could.

And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because ( listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
 
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t "find " LASTING love. You have to "make"  it day in and day out. That’s why we have the __expression " the labor of  love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it
Takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
Things you can do (
with or without your spouse ) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe ( such as gravity),
There are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
Program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
Relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If  you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable… You can "
make" love.


Love in marriage is indeed a " decision"… Not just a feeling.

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blue ray disc !

SONY’S DISK drive division is working hard to introduce Blue-Ray. It merged with NEC in April and will try to take as much market as possible. But despite the fact that some Blu-Ray consumer recorders are out and about, there won’t be any computer drives on the shelves before August.While Sony can’t say much about the pricing of such drives, it can say one thing: they will be expensive. Its Blu-ray drives will be able to read and write DVDs, CDs as well as Blu-Ray disks. In fact the disks are already available and they should cost between  £70 and £106 for a single-layer 25GB disk and much
more for 50GB dual-layer platter.

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TURNING TORSO:

 A view of the 190-metre-tall, 54-floor Turning Torso apartment tower in Malmo, Sweden, on Saturday. Offering a stupendous view over the Oresund Sound between Sweden and Denmark, the building turns 90 degrees around its own axis. Spanish architect Santiago Calatrava got the idea for the tower from observing the human body in motion.

For more info click here

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hmmm sad story la

One night a guy & a girl were driving

 home from the movies.

The boy sensed there was something wrong

because of the painful silence they shared

 between them that night.

The girl then asked the boy to pull over

 because she wanted to talk.

 She told him that her feelings had changed

& that it was time to move on.

 A silent tear slid down his cheek as

he slowly reached into his pocket & passed

 her a folded note.

At that moment,

a drunk driver was speeding down that very

same street.

 He swerved right into the drivers seat,

 killing the boy.

 Miraculously, the girl survived.

Remembering the note,

 she pulled it out & read it.

"Without your love, I would die."

 

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